Dating a man who has been abused
It is just as important for partners to talk through their emotional states as it is for victims, she says.
Tobias recommends checking with local associations of licensed psychologists and psychiatrists for referrals.
She has had just two serious romantic relationships in her life.
She admits she is more comfortable with casual flings, partly because the closer she gets to a man emotionally, the less she wants to have sex with him.
The history of abuse can also test the partner's limits of patience and understanding.
But researchers and mental health experts say there are steps couples can take to help overcome these difficulties and cultivate a healthy, meaningful relationship.
When my phone pinged and I read, “That’s great, have fun! During my five year marriage, my ex-husband used verbal, financial, and emotional abuse to increase his control over every aspect of my life.May 15, 2000 -- Elizabeth Haney was sexually assaulted at school by a group of male classmates when she was 12.Now 24, the San Francisco woman finds that repercussions of the attack have made her incapable of connecting love with sex."I got upset, and he tried to talk to me about it, but I wouldn't talk about it," she says."I couldn't say what I wanted to, and he got frustrated." The impact of childhood sexual abuse on adult intimacy varies from person to person, but experts say Haney's relationship troubles are not uncommon.