Dating getting past second base
That interest is more important than explaining oneself.
But it is an interest that comes naturally and does not have to be feigned.
After the third or fourth date, there is the opportunity to meet each other’s friends and enter into each other’s life; but it is important to make a good start.
(c) Fredric Neuman"What both men and women try to do during these first meetings is to convey something of themselves.
There are not a whole lot of things that people can do on a first date.
Usually, they are sitting together somewhere holding a drink or a cup of coffee. Often, if the date has been arranged over the internet, that meeting was set up sensibly only to last for a short time—long enough for each person to decide whether or not they want to get to know the other.
These activities may be divided into different categories: Of course, if one of the two people has a favorite place, that would probably be a good place to go on a date since it will be endorsed enthusiastically by that person—and enthusiasm is always appealing.
Suggestions of what to do on a second or third date should not come exclusively from one party. What both men and women try to do during these first meetings is to convey something of themselves.
I think it is a good idea to try to restrain this impulse.Usually, where they go and what they do will not matter very much.If they come to know each other and grow to like each other better over time, they may begin to care for each other in a serious way.Christopher Marlowe put it more strongly: “…whoever loved, that loved not at first sight?” Well, plenty of people; but on many occasions I have heard someone speak of meeting someone and then “talking half the night.” Even if that person is not speaking about love at first sight, something akin to that has happened.