Dating mormon girl
There are so many people in our ward it can feel like Where’s Waldo in there week after week. Girl invites Guy over for dinner with her roommate and a few friends.So when The Rules suggest that a woman should never instigate a conversation, or angle herself into the seat beside his, invite him over first, etc., it might seem like a really bad strategy. I’ve been a Rules Girl, and I’ve been the anti-Rules Girl. (It’s possible she only ever planned the dinner just for this reason.) Every Sunday she makes it a point to talk to him, sit near but not too close to him, and repeats the same at family home evening, and Institute during the week.They aren’t really dating, but they are doing everything together. Just like she sought him out in the crowd, he could have sought her out.She doesn’t mind that she’s instigates everything because she’s a social butterfly. They spend enough time together they were practically a couple. But would that happen in a women-dense population where the men expect the woman to flock to them, bake them treats, and invite them to parties? If a man is interested, he’ll find a way to meet the woman.According to legend, if you follow their thirty rules for courtship and dating, the man you have always dreamed of will ask you out, woo you, treat you like the queen you are, and eventually propose. And Sunday dinners and taking a plate of brownies over to a guy you like is an expected commonplace occurrence? Do The Rules apply or work for women in a singles ward where the ratio of women to men can be staggeringly not in their favor?
And then there are the Southern women who just call it common sense. In my mid-singles ward there is a consistent 3:1 ratio. Three beautiful and talented women for every single man. Plain and simple, it can feel like a competition to get the attention of the good guys and get a date.
You’ll never have to send another text to your sister analyzing his every move.
You’ll never have to wonder if he actually likes you, or if he just likes free food and something to do on a Sunday evening. It may mean fewer free meals and few less plates of cookies for you, and more proactive dating, so why should men support The Rules?
She plans outings for all of her friends, it’s just her thing. In her mind there are mixed messages all over the place. If he’s shy and needs a nudge, he will still do it, it just might take him longer.
Here is the upside for the women- the reason why you should put your baking pans away, and stop being the go-getter. Without The Rules, you may throw more parties, and talk to him more, but you’ll never know if he was ever interested in you or the parties.